My A to Your Q: On 32- and 37-Year-Old Me



Q: Where do you see yourself in 10 or 15 years time? ~Tori_z

A: First off, I can barely imagine myself over 40 so I've decided to do the five and 10 year marks instead.

I think the next five years will be all about cultivating my career, branching out and becoming better. I see the next five years being all about me and my personal growth. I wish I had the guts (and the financial backing) to up and go wherever the wind blew. The last thing I want to feel is "stuck." Every thing's a variable that can be tweaked and changed if you so choose and I really want to make the most of that before starting a family.

That said, maybe it's because I'm still not allowing myself to think about it, but I don't see marriage or children playing a role within that time.

The 10-year time frame is different. I hope my life at that point includes:

- A sweet, supportive husband and a pair of messy, brilliant little kids.
- A well-established writing career filled with book tours and trips to foreign countries.
- A cozy home...outside of NYC. Although I'm slightly torn on this, I'm leaning more towards the house with green grass my children (and Toby and I) can run on. I want tire swings and flowers. I've been dreaming of trips to the orchard, hay rides and fairs (so much for the city girl, huh?). Truth be told, I find myself wanting the life Mr. First and I would have settled into.

As much as I love this city and all it has to offer, I don't want to wake up 10 years from now and realize I've never truly experienced life outside of it.

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